Why are you dating my Face-Twin?
This week I seek to question:
Why do people date other people who look like their ex?
So, some smart ass is going to tell me: Maybe it’s because some people just have a ‘type’? Maybe it’s coincidence? Don’t patronize meeeee sir. I am absolutely, positively convinced there is more to it then what meets the eye.
A while back, I found out that my ex-boyfriend had got a new girlfriend. Now, although the gal seemed harmless enough (from the picture) there was something vaguely uncanny about how similar she was (looks wise) to me. I mean how many Anglo-Indian mixed race British girls are there in his town? I mean if that’s his type then geeze it’s kind of a bit specific isn’t it? I don’t really know whether to be flattered or offended to be frank.
Okay another smart arse is going to (quite rightly) say: Geez girl, it doesn’t all have to be about YOU you self-obsessed fruitloop!
Well maybe you’re right! Maybe I am self obsessed. Who’s going to stop me? Maybe it has nothing to do with me what-so-ever BUT that doesn’t stop me THINKING about it now does it? Of course there is nothing “officially” WRONG with this whole “situation” to which I am ultimately a third party. It’s just really, REALLY WIERD okay!!
Think about the controversy surrounding Ashton Kutcher’s beaux after he split from the georgeous Demi Moore. What happens? The geezer steps out with a woman whom some reporters described as looking like his ex-wife’s clone! I can’t help but wonder whether her similarities to Demi had anything to do with his new relationship? I’m not judging. It’s not like I know the couple. But I am questioning.
So I began discussing this whole shebang with a couple of different mates. But the more I discussed it the more and more I began to realize that this twisted ‘dating you’re ex’s brother [if ex is dude] or sister [if ex is chick] from a different mother (or mr)’ happens a lot more often then we like to think.
One of my friends said her ex got with a girl almost identical to her two months after they split. His new girlfriend had the same hair, similar clothes style, even the same goddamn body piercings… What kinda of crazy —? I mean, what baffled her is the pressing and rather obvious question: Where did he find her???
So a little story for ya… When I was at school this girl I know was dating this guy. Their relationship was pretty intense. They thought they’d be together forever. Then sadly one unhappy day they broke up. (Sad right!?) But that’s not the end of the fairy tale. A few months later I was working in the pub and in he swans with this chick. The shocking thing was, this new lass possessed pretty much the same face as my school friend. I literally had to do a double take. The similarities were stifling – to the extent I was considering phoning the police to tell them this heartbroken maniac had cut off my mate’s face and surgically stapled it to this poor stranger.
‘Alright Yaz? Can I get a pint of Carlsberg and as Archers and lemonade? Thanks mate.’
The Silence of the Lambs style movie sequence in my head suddenly snapped back to the pub scene in which I found myself. I just kinda gave him a suspecting look as I poured his larger – after which I decided that it was probably best I didn’t get involved.
Note to Self: One thing worse than getting involved with the serial killer is getting involved with other people’s relationships.
Back to dating looky-likeys… Remember that episode of friends when Rachel dates Russ! That’s gotta be based on real people’s experience right!? Why else would it be so funny?
http://www.comedycentral.co.uk/shows/friends-season-02/episodes/friends-season-2-episode-10/video/friends-210-russ-ross-steve-sleeve-677953/
http://youtu.be/yp33Vnnfcuw
http://youtu.be/NPGDk6nmYz8
Maybe they date people who look like their ex because they are comforted by what they already know? Maybe it genuinely is coincidence and they just have a mutual attraction? One can only speculate.
I began to wonder whether I looked similar to any of my recent date’s exes? Have I dated my own ex-bf’s face twin?
I was probably just being hyper-sensitive. If I looked back at the photo maybe I would realize that his new girlfriend and I am completely different. But… but… but… I do remember her having bigger tits then me. That hurt. But you know what reader… I am bloody proud of my moderate chest size… moving swifly on. I guess this is all a part of the process of moving on from a relationship. I think it’s definately important to get this kind of thing off your chest… (Couldn’t resist.)
So these are the questions that have baffled me this week. I guess there is never any real way of discerning why people date their ex’s looky-likeys but take comfort in knowing that no matter what appearances are like everyone is unique and everyone is different. Although it can be difficult not to, I don’t think comparing yourself to a stranger is particularly helpful. If you have been or ever end up in the situation Demi Moore and I have recently found ourselves then I suggest you do the following…
A Short My-Ex-Is-Dating-My-Face-Twin-But-I’m-So-Cool-With-It-It’s-Ridiculouuuus Exercise
While looking in a full length mirror, power dressed right up, I want you to turn to your reflection and exclaim in your best Foxxy Cleopatra immitation:
“I am fucking irreplaceable biatch.”
And you better say it like you mean it sister. This should be followed by two sharp finger snaps and a lean back.
And you know what… You ARE irreplaceable. What I have come to realize is that your ex getting a new beaux is about them starting a new chapter in his/her life, not erasing past ones. This shouldn’t be about measuring your worth against someone else, or weighing up the similarities (even though in this case there may be some BIG ones).
Instead it should be about reminding yourself that you are one of a kind BABY yeah!!!
And if that doesn’t make you feel better then only father time will be able to exhaust your mind to the extent that you just won’t be able to think about it any more.
I also suggest you lock the Gin up in a cupboard and throw the key out the window, coz I guarantee if you go down that path my love… EVERYBODY is guna look like your ex. (I can’t guarantee they will look like them in the morning tho!) We don’t need to go there people. Respect!
Have a great week peeps.
Yaz x
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