Virtually Dating?
Technology has made loads of things a lot easier – I can’t imagine completing my degree/doing my job/day-to-day life without the use of the internet. But some things have got a lot more complicated. Sometimes I think that being alive a hundred years ago was actually a lot easier than it is today.
100 Years Ago:
Girl meets boy at a dance/farmer’s market/in town.
Boy offers to walk girl home.
If boy wants to see girl/girl wants to see boy he/she writes her/him a letter or goes to his/her house to talk to him/her.
Today:
Girl meets boy at club/supermarket/in town.
Girl and boy exchange phone numbers.
Girl waits for boy to text. Boy is probably doing the same. Boy and girl add each other to Facebook/Twitter/Instagram and this is how they discover where each other lives, what they like to eat, what their ex-boyfriend/girlfriend looks like, etc. etc.
See – it’s a lot more complicated!
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I think the art of face-to-face conversation is massively underrated.
In this modern age, we spend a lot of time making assumptions based on what a person has ‘liked’ on Facebook, how many people have ‘favourited’ their tweets, or who their best friends are on Snapchat. We spend so much time second guessing without actually bothering to discover the real answers.
When it comes to relationships, I think that the internet, social media, and mobile phones make it so confusing.
What if you’re texting someone more than you’re seeing them face-to-face? Does that really count as dating?
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Personally, I start to get a bit sceptical if a guy is keen to text me but is more often than not on holiday/helping his mum/feeding a friend’s cat when I suggest meeting up. If the person you like wants to see you-face-to-face, I think that’s an indicator that they are sincere. It takes a lot more effort to meet in ‘real-life’ than to converse through a screen. If the person I’m interested in is text-happy, I begin to think that they are either being lazy or keeping me on hold just in case they get a better offer.
So ladies and gents, I think it’s time to go old school.
If you like someone – go and see them. Go for a picnic, throw stones at their window in the middle of the night, sit in the back row of the cinema. A little bit of face-to-face contact goes a long way.
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1 Comment
I think there is definitely room for old school and modern tech to coexist. I also agree that in this day and age of Tinder swipes and “choodoin’?” late-night text messages, we’re nostalgic for the way it was.
Tech will continue to evolve – as it should – but I think people will also start to incorporate “the way it was” as they become increasingly confused and frustrated by “virtually dating.”