August 18, 2015 - Written by: Patricia Obaro Odje

Choose Love, Choose Happiness

Something that has been bothering my mind recently is how easy it is to feel silly or irrational when you keep forgiving someone continuously or consistently make an effort with that one friend everyone says treats you badly.

We have all felt that major burn in our chest at one point in our lives when someone disappoints us beyond our wildest nightmare. To be completely honest in most cases I can understand how it may look easier to turn away and become ‘numb’ to future situations, situationships and relationships. But the question is… is that actually the easier route? Is it better to not have to feel again in that way in the future and completely shut that side of your heart out?

Personally, I feel like the more you stop yourself from feeling or acting on your heart, the more unhappy you feel.

It has already been known that as human beings our greatest desire is to love and feel loved so, why fight it? Surely one person or one occasion is not enough to hinder the huge flow of energy of your heart, it is only if you let it take over that you are destined for the whole ‘Ice Queen’ status.

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I know for a fact some people may be reading this and think I’m crazy, but I always choose to follow these basic ground rules:

I love as if I have…
never been heartbroken,
never been lied to,
never been taken for granted,
& never been betrayed.

Why? Because for one, numbing myself is not only letting the person win, but it is also not actually helping me in any way at all.

If you know me well you will be able to notice my energy, enthusiasm and constant desire to live, laugh and dance my life away (literally). It would kill me to think I could let myself be changed because of something that is of this world – there’s more to me than that!

Regardless of your religion, I am sure you can relate to me when I say you have been taught to love regardless of what you receive in return. It isn’t about receiving it is about giving. ‘Treat everyone the way you would like to be treated’.

So why expect so much back when we love?

If everyone showed love regardless of how we were treated everyone would be more happier! Although in most cases whoever has wronged you deserves a lot worse, let them get their just deserts naturally, it’s not your role to play God. And let’s face it, you have a high chance of feeling rather stupid afterwards if you choose to be spiteful anyway.